Saturday, November 29, 2008

My Mind Numbing Thanksgiving Weekend!

So we arrived in PA early Thursday morning, like 130amish, then Thursday eveningish prior to our 6p dinner, we checked into our hotel. Thursday wasn't too terribly bad, don't get me wrong it wasn't great, but not bad. Friday I went shopping with my SIL and when got back hubz and his brothers were playing video games for multiple HOURS...RUDE MUCH!!!!!! We left at around midnitish...after I thought I'd die from boredom. Saturday I went wedding dress shopping with the SILs and the MIL only to come home and find the boys playing video games AGAIN!!! which they'd been doing since 11am, it's now 5p and they're going strong with no sign of stopping. Now I ask you in a house with ONE tv why in the HELLLL would they think this was okay. Seriously it's fucking RUDE. Now let's add to this that we're here until Sunday to do what exactly? There's nothing to do...oh wait we can be forced to play games, FUN TIMES!!!! I want to go time I'm not giving a choice we're leaving on Saturday. It's fine that he doesn't have to do anything for work but I'd like a little down time. I spent my weekdays sitting around doing nothing on the computer the last thing I want to do is spend a holiday weekend doing it.

The only two good things about this weekend, I got most of my Christmas shopping done and SIL may have found her wedding dress, that's assuming her mother doesn't talk her out of it.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008


Well it's Thanksgiving Eve and as I anticipate a very looooong weekend I can't help but be thankful that I at least get to spend it with family even if parts of the family make me want to jump headfirst into a bottle of wine! We're spending Thanksgiving in Pennsylvania with hubz mom and while I'd rather be with my family, I realize that marriage is about compromise, so it's off to PA I go with my happy face on. My MIL is not my most favorite person (it's a long story with issues of respect and boundaries tied in) but she did make my hubz so for that I'm thankful. Normally around the holidays I tend to get reflective. Reflective about the year that's past and the year to come. When I was younger I never understood that Thanksgiving was not only about the food, oh how I love the food, but also about counting our blessings. So this year, after celebrating and surviving my first year of marriage, I'm thankful that God has blessed me with this man who loves me in spite of my flaws, and I know I have many, whose my perfect fit and balances me out. I'm thankful that those men in my family/friends that were deployed this time last year are home safe and with their friends and family this year. I'm thankful that my nieces and nephews are all healthy and growing strong and that this time next year my sister will have added another to this crazy family. Mostly though, I'm thankful that I'm blessed enough to be surrounded by friends and family that I love and cherish and who help me grow and make me stronger. So as we sit down to that yummy turkey, ham or whatever you have for dinner take it all in and thank God for the blessings for which he has bestowed up on us.


Wednesday, November 19, 2008

The Fever continues

The baby fever is alive and well....

It's been a while, but I've been busy. We spent Saturday in NJ at my friend Lindsey's wedding to her perfect mate. Their wedding was beautiful and I cried more than I did at my own wedding. We came home Saturday nite and Sunday it was back to life, except with a migraine added to the mix...NICE!!!!

This week it's been school and work, and work and school. My life's so exciting I don't know what to do. Hubz is helping out more which I greatly appreciate especially since I have my big group project due in two weeks. Not to mention I'm not as tired because I don't feel like I'm trying to juggle 12 balls. I've got big plans to get the step-son's real room painted this weekend, it was on my list of 101 things, so here's hoping that works out.

Next week is Thanksgiving and we're headed to PA...oh the joy! However, regardless of where I'm eating oh Thursday, on Friday I'll be shopping. I have my Dec 1st goal for family Christmas shopping looming and I just might make it, but only if I can shop on Black Friday otherwise I'm screwed. I need to get to Toys R Us for all the rug rats and hit up Bath and Body Works for my older niece,MIL BF's daughter and my dad's step-daughter. I'm making gift baskets for some of the couples. My sisters are all done so HOORAY!!! However I still have the lil brother's birthday (11 Dec) and Christmas gifts to get as well as my mom's gift and my dad's wife. I can't believe this may really happen. Then it's just the step-son and hubz! I love it when a plan comes together.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Compromised Reached

Well the strike finally ended this weekend. We've come to an agreement and that's fantastic! This week has been pretty slow, and I love it. No school last nite b/c of Veteran's Day (thank you the soliders who serve and have served our country), bowling was quick on Monday b/c we bowled blind. Tonite's cubscouts and tomorrow's RCIC and then hubz and I are off to NJ for a very good friend's wedding. My goal this wedding is to not get as drunk as last time b/c it'll make for a horrible ride home. Of course since it's at 1130 in the morning I'm sure that'll be no problem.

Other than that nothing new. We're just getting ready for the holidays. Before we know it it'll be time for our annual New Year's party.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Possible Turning Poin

I think the strike may have hit a turning point. Tuesday when I got home from class the kitchen was actually cleaned. No dishes in the sink from hubz cooking dinner and the counter somewhat wiped down. Last nite I cooked, for the first time in a week, and he actually helped with the dishes. When we firsted moved in together the deal was if I cooked he would clean. However, except for a rare occasion here and there, I've been cooking and cleaning since we've moved. I don't care if we both do them but I don't want to have to do EVERYTHING! I mean I do want to have children with the man, but if we can't even be a team when it comes to household chores how the hell are we suppose to raise kids toghether!

Wednesday, November 5, 2008


Remember how a couple of posts ago I talked about my need to control things? Well I'm slowly losing control of my life, at least that's how it feels, and becoming more and more stressed. We're broke, can barely pay all of our bills, hubz hours were just got 20% and Christmas is coming! I've cried more to day then I have in a while. And while some of the crying was due to the excitement I feel for the man that we as a nation have elected as our 44th President most of it was due to the fact that I don't know how we're going to make it until Januaryish when I hopefully get a good bonus and a little bump in pay. Hubz plan is he'll take care of it and that's all well and good but it doesn't work for me if it means he thinks he doesn't have to support me around the house! For the LOVE OF GOD we bought a house with three levels, four bedrooms, 3.5 baths and .5 acres! I CAN'T DO IT ALL!!! Now he wants to go camping this Saturday (something we were suppose to do until we found out, no thanks to the step-son, about a MANDATORY family retreat for RCIC) after spending and entire day at a chruch Retreat. While I was game before we knew about the retreat now I'm not so much, plus WE CAN'T AFFORD it. Doesn't he understand that we have to save what money we have? This is the last check he'll get before the only thing his checks will be paying is the mortgage.

Oh and to add to the stress, I forgot to mention this yesterday, I found out this weekend my best friend (we've know each other since 4th grade) is probably moving to California in June! Great the one person I can talk to honestly about everything and not have to filter anything with! I'm going to miss her daughter growing up and now she won't be here when I finally have kids, whenever the hell that is. I know June's forever away but it'll be here before I we know it!

Deep breaths...that's really the only way to get through this!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Strike Day 9...Weekend Recap (kind of long)

So yes..I'm still on strike. The phrase I get tired of hearing from hubz the most is, "I work and I'm busy." Umm...WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING WHEN I GET UP AT 430 EVERY MORNING!!! So what if I have an office job and most days I'm not super busy. The fact is I like him also work. Add to that going to school, homework from said school, keeping track of my schedule, his schedule and the step-son's schedule it's amazing I ever get anything done, but I do! I often wonder if hubz' dad ever did anything around the house b/c why else would he think it's okay for him to not help with anything unless forced! I did grow up in a house where my dad didn't help with anything and I'll be damned if I'm going to live like that. This is his house too and he should have to help with the upkeep..outside AND INSIDE!!!

So...besides my continuing strike the weekend was good. Hubz put together a little party for me on Friday all the fam was there along with some friends and my newest nephew (not by blood but his parents are like family)Mason. He's perfect! Hubz spent way too much money on presents for me, but I loved them all. See I really do love the man and the way he takes care of me I just wish he'd pull his weight around the house, we are suppose to be a team.

Saturday I spent the morning scrapbooking with my Mason's mom, my favortist SIL and another friend M. Then it was off to a group meeting that was suprising productive and yummy. The group member that had us over fed us, it was great! I met my mom at my aunt's for a bit and b/c auntie had a birthday present for me. It was a beautiful hand painted basket. Now I just have to find somewhere to put it.

Sunday was busy with Church, soccer and then helping hubz at a side job for a couple of hours. When we finally got back home we got the basement unpacked and finally got all the electronics hooked-up. I only have to use one remote.

All in all not too bad of a weekend. The step-son's done with soccer so our weeks won't be so busy and our weekends are pretty free. At least they will be after the Church family retreat this weekend, wedding next weekend and Thanksgiving.

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