Thursday, December 18, 2008

Oh Baby

This cutie is the reason for my extreme baby fever. And we're hoping that in the next year we can give him a little girlfriend. I just ordered my last set of BC and I must say I'm a little anxious. As I've mentioned before I have this extreme need to have complete control of my life and a plan for everything but as my wonderful hubz pointed out not long ago that whole planning my life thing hasn't worked out so great the past couple of years. So after I finish the last pack of Pills we're putting it in God's hands.
Sure I'm in school but I'm on track to finish in Spring of 2010 and we're on track to pay off two credit cards by the beginning of 2010, if not sooner, and we're not getting any younger. Hubz and I don't really want to have kids much after about 35ish so we gotta get started, especially since he just informed me that he wants 5 or 6 as compared to the 4 we had talked about. Apparently he's not aware that I'm human and I don't birth litters. He says once I have the first one I'm going to like it so much I'm going to just want to be pregnant again, some how I doubt it.
Let the count down two months we're gonna start the babymaking. Stay tuned!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

This, that and the Other

My best guy friend is in the Army. He joined straight out of high school, unbeknownest to me, and really hasn't looked back. No matter what he says he loves it and like his dad and my dad he's destined to be a lifer. In the eight years that he's been in he's been deployed five or six times I think and everytime he goes I don't breathe fully until I know he's back on American soil. I just found out he's due to deploy again in February. While I admire him for what he's doing and I appreciate the sacrafice he's made I still can't help but think that every time he goes back he's tempting fate. He and my bestest, the one moving to Cali, are my constants. To think of life without either of them is unbearable. So in February when he leaves I'll be holding my breath once again until he returns. Pray for him.

I finished my first graduate course last nite. I got an A! Of course as the Professor pointed out this course is a cake walk compared to what's to come, but an A is an A. I'll take it. Now it's a little relaxing, a little party planning, some reading and painting and before I know it I'll be back in school this time with two classes. I can't wait!

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Thoughts and Ramblings

With only 14 days until Christmas I'm feeling uncharacteristically relaxed. My shopping's just about finished. Saturday we're getting our tree and decorating the outside of the house. I've got a to-do list, of course, with things I need to get finished before Sunday, but I'm doing good. I love Christmas almost as much as I love Halloween, but this year's is bittersweet because next year my best friend will be on the other side of the country. I try not to think about the fact that in five months she'll be gone because it makes me sad instead I focus on our weekly dinners and the time that we do have. Our relationship has never been very complicated. We met in 4th grade and have been best friends ever since. We were inseperable through elementary school, went to different middle schools but were always in touch, reunited in high school where we were once again inseperable and then went to different colleges but again always in touch. She was there the day I got engaged and the day I got married. To know that we're going to have to work harder at maintaining our friendship is both scary and exciting. I refuse to let her not be a part of my life.

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Family...Lost but not Forgotten

My mom's an orphan. Her dad passed when she was still a kid, her mom passed April 10, 2000, and her brother, unbeknowst to her until almost a year later, passed in February of 2003. Relations with her brother were strained after the passing of her mother and they just were never to work things out. I don't know really what happened but I do know whatever it was caused for the relationship I could have had with my three cousins to be non-existent. For years this has saddened me. I've sent Christmas cards to their mother and invited them all to my wedding but they all declined. To say I was hurt is an understatement I was really more sad. I mean they were the only family I had left on that side and the fact that we couldn't have a relationship because of something that happene with our parents just didn't make sense to me. Enter facebook... I was on facebook yesterday and just thought "what the heck" so I looked up the girls, their brother wasn't listed, and added them as my friends. Never thinking they'd actually accept but low and behold. Now I find out the youngest just graduated from college and is engaged. They're both more beautiful then ever and I'm just so sad that I've missed out on so much of thier life just because our parents coudn't realize how important family is.

My sisters, God love them, sometimes just need a good shake. However, I would NEVER cut off communication. I need them in my life, though I have my friends, without my sisters I'm nothing. They make me who I am. They share my DNA, my experiences and my shit brown eyes and nappy hair. Sure the two of them are closer because they're twins, but no matter what we are sisters. And there's no bond stronger. I could say the same of my little brother. Sure we're 16 years apart but he's a part of me, we may not share all of our DNA but share enough. I would do anything for these three people that are the most important part of who I am, my family. Sure hubz and the step-son are my new family and now they're my most important responsibility but it's in a different way. I could never and would never turn my back on my sisters or my brother. And to know that my mom and her brother did that to each other baffles me. And it's because of their inability to communicate that I have lost precious time and memories with these cousins that I have longed to know for a while now.

So here's hoping, that with the help of facebook we can have some sort of relationship. Even if it is just through the internet.

Monday, December 8, 2008

The newest addition

No I'm not having a baby, but my baby sister just found out that she's having another boy. He's due in April, 4 days before her birthday. My nephew is very excited as he was quite worried about sharing his toys with a girl, they're boring. So now I have yet another little boy to spoil and it's on me to provide the first granddaughter.

Last Week

So last week turned out to be a lot slower than expected. Lil bro got in BIG trouble in school on Tuesday so our scheduled events for him were all cancelled...yup it was that bad. The nephews still spent the nite Friday and we still went to see Bolt, but there was no party on Saturday. So other than a team meeting for school and a party later that nite it was a quite day. Thursday I didn't have to play chauffer b/c hubz meeting with the potential client got moved to this week and the cub scouts are coming to the house this week as well. So the busy week looks like it's this week instead. However, eye on the prize...Saturday we go to the Christmas Tree farm in Ticonderoga to get our tree! Can't wait.

Christams is 17 days away and we are just about done. We finished up the step-son yesterday so now it's just a few stragglers. I can't believe that we're going to be done with shopping before the week of Christams. This is the first time ever. Hopefully next year we can be done at the beginning of December like I'd planned.

So that's the update from last week. I'll be better about this week.

Monday, December 1, 2008

Back to the Grinde

So we got home Sunday just in time for the Redskins game, not that it was worth my time...WHAT THE HELL!!!! I wonder what happened to the team that was playing like they deserved to make it to the playoffs and not through the back door but the front...grrrr not happy. After the game we headed over to my BFF's house for our weekly dinner. Then it was to bed for some R&R before sleep of course Gozer was full of it last nite b/c he hadn't seen us all weekend...he's so cute.

Now it's back to work. This morning I realized that I've temporarily misplaced by cell phone....hmmmmm sure wish I knew where the hell it was. This week's pretty slow compared to what our schedule use to be but busy compared to the last few weeks. Bowling tonite, school tomorros, den meeting tomorrow (i'm leaving b/c the boys are coming to our house for woodwork), RCIC thursday and I'm on driving duty b/c hubz has a meeting with a potential client. Plus Thursday my lil bro is coming to stay the weekend while my mom goes and picks up his birthday present...a shiba inu puppy, friday we have all the boys (4 including the step-son and bro) and we're making mini-pizzas and going to see bolt. Saturday is my lil bro's birthday party at my house. Few I'm exhausted just thinking about it....we'll be relaxing after the party and definately all day Sunday when we have nothing to do, except for dinner with the BFF and Christmas decorating.

Sure hope this week goes by quick....I can't believe there's only 24 days until Christmas. Where has the time gone? Only 5 months until we're actively TTC. This time next year we'll hopfully be preparing for a baby!

Saturday, November 29, 2008

My Mind Numbing Thanksgiving Weekend!

So we arrived in PA early Thursday morning, like 130amish, then Thursday eveningish prior to our 6p dinner, we checked into our hotel. Thursday wasn't too terribly bad, don't get me wrong it wasn't great, but not bad. Friday I went shopping with my SIL and when got back hubz and his brothers were playing video games for multiple HOURS...RUDE MUCH!!!!!! We left at around midnitish...after I thought I'd die from boredom. Saturday I went wedding dress shopping with the SILs and the MIL only to come home and find the boys playing video games AGAIN!!! which they'd been doing since 11am, it's now 5p and they're going strong with no sign of stopping. Now I ask you in a house with ONE tv why in the HELLLL would they think this was okay. Seriously it's fucking RUDE. Now let's add to this that we're here until Sunday to do what exactly? There's nothing to do...oh wait we can be forced to play games, FUN TIMES!!!! I want to go time I'm not giving a choice we're leaving on Saturday. It's fine that he doesn't have to do anything for work but I'd like a little down time. I spent my weekdays sitting around doing nothing on the computer the last thing I want to do is spend a holiday weekend doing it.

The only two good things about this weekend, I got most of my Christmas shopping done and SIL may have found her wedding dress, that's assuming her mother doesn't talk her out of it.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008


Well it's Thanksgiving Eve and as I anticipate a very looooong weekend I can't help but be thankful that I at least get to spend it with family even if parts of the family make me want to jump headfirst into a bottle of wine! We're spending Thanksgiving in Pennsylvania with hubz mom and while I'd rather be with my family, I realize that marriage is about compromise, so it's off to PA I go with my happy face on. My MIL is not my most favorite person (it's a long story with issues of respect and boundaries tied in) but she did make my hubz so for that I'm thankful. Normally around the holidays I tend to get reflective. Reflective about the year that's past and the year to come. When I was younger I never understood that Thanksgiving was not only about the food, oh how I love the food, but also about counting our blessings. So this year, after celebrating and surviving my first year of marriage, I'm thankful that God has blessed me with this man who loves me in spite of my flaws, and I know I have many, whose my perfect fit and balances me out. I'm thankful that those men in my family/friends that were deployed this time last year are home safe and with their friends and family this year. I'm thankful that my nieces and nephews are all healthy and growing strong and that this time next year my sister will have added another to this crazy family. Mostly though, I'm thankful that I'm blessed enough to be surrounded by friends and family that I love and cherish and who help me grow and make me stronger. So as we sit down to that yummy turkey, ham or whatever you have for dinner take it all in and thank God for the blessings for which he has bestowed up on us.


Wednesday, November 19, 2008

The Fever continues

The baby fever is alive and well....

It's been a while, but I've been busy. We spent Saturday in NJ at my friend Lindsey's wedding to her perfect mate. Their wedding was beautiful and I cried more than I did at my own wedding. We came home Saturday nite and Sunday it was back to life, except with a migraine added to the mix...NICE!!!!

This week it's been school and work, and work and school. My life's so exciting I don't know what to do. Hubz is helping out more which I greatly appreciate especially since I have my big group project due in two weeks. Not to mention I'm not as tired because I don't feel like I'm trying to juggle 12 balls. I've got big plans to get the step-son's real room painted this weekend, it was on my list of 101 things, so here's hoping that works out.

Next week is Thanksgiving and we're headed to PA...oh the joy! However, regardless of where I'm eating oh Thursday, on Friday I'll be shopping. I have my Dec 1st goal for family Christmas shopping looming and I just might make it, but only if I can shop on Black Friday otherwise I'm screwed. I need to get to Toys R Us for all the rug rats and hit up Bath and Body Works for my older niece,MIL BF's daughter and my dad's step-daughter. I'm making gift baskets for some of the couples. My sisters are all done so HOORAY!!! However I still have the lil brother's birthday (11 Dec) and Christmas gifts to get as well as my mom's gift and my dad's wife. I can't believe this may really happen. Then it's just the step-son and hubz! I love it when a plan comes together.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Compromised Reached

Well the strike finally ended this weekend. We've come to an agreement and that's fantastic! This week has been pretty slow, and I love it. No school last nite b/c of Veteran's Day (thank you the soliders who serve and have served our country), bowling was quick on Monday b/c we bowled blind. Tonite's cubscouts and tomorrow's RCIC and then hubz and I are off to NJ for a very good friend's wedding. My goal this wedding is to not get as drunk as last time b/c it'll make for a horrible ride home. Of course since it's at 1130 in the morning I'm sure that'll be no problem.

Other than that nothing new. We're just getting ready for the holidays. Before we know it it'll be time for our annual New Year's party.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Possible Turning Poin

I think the strike may have hit a turning point. Tuesday when I got home from class the kitchen was actually cleaned. No dishes in the sink from hubz cooking dinner and the counter somewhat wiped down. Last nite I cooked, for the first time in a week, and he actually helped with the dishes. When we firsted moved in together the deal was if I cooked he would clean. However, except for a rare occasion here and there, I've been cooking and cleaning since we've moved. I don't care if we both do them but I don't want to have to do EVERYTHING! I mean I do want to have children with the man, but if we can't even be a team when it comes to household chores how the hell are we suppose to raise kids toghether!

Wednesday, November 5, 2008


Remember how a couple of posts ago I talked about my need to control things? Well I'm slowly losing control of my life, at least that's how it feels, and becoming more and more stressed. We're broke, can barely pay all of our bills, hubz hours were just got 20% and Christmas is coming! I've cried more to day then I have in a while. And while some of the crying was due to the excitement I feel for the man that we as a nation have elected as our 44th President most of it was due to the fact that I don't know how we're going to make it until Januaryish when I hopefully get a good bonus and a little bump in pay. Hubz plan is he'll take care of it and that's all well and good but it doesn't work for me if it means he thinks he doesn't have to support me around the house! For the LOVE OF GOD we bought a house with three levels, four bedrooms, 3.5 baths and .5 acres! I CAN'T DO IT ALL!!! Now he wants to go camping this Saturday (something we were suppose to do until we found out, no thanks to the step-son, about a MANDATORY family retreat for RCIC) after spending and entire day at a chruch Retreat. While I was game before we knew about the retreat now I'm not so much, plus WE CAN'T AFFORD it. Doesn't he understand that we have to save what money we have? This is the last check he'll get before the only thing his checks will be paying is the mortgage.

Oh and to add to the stress, I forgot to mention this yesterday, I found out this weekend my best friend (we've know each other since 4th grade) is probably moving to California in June! Great the one person I can talk to honestly about everything and not have to filter anything with! I'm going to miss her daughter growing up and now she won't be here when I finally have kids, whenever the hell that is. I know June's forever away but it'll be here before I we know it!

Deep breaths...that's really the only way to get through this!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Strike Day 9...Weekend Recap (kind of long)

So yes..I'm still on strike. The phrase I get tired of hearing from hubz the most is, "I work and I'm busy." Umm...WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING WHEN I GET UP AT 430 EVERY MORNING!!! So what if I have an office job and most days I'm not super busy. The fact is I like him also work. Add to that going to school, homework from said school, keeping track of my schedule, his schedule and the step-son's schedule it's amazing I ever get anything done, but I do! I often wonder if hubz' dad ever did anything around the house b/c why else would he think it's okay for him to not help with anything unless forced! I did grow up in a house where my dad didn't help with anything and I'll be damned if I'm going to live like that. This is his house too and he should have to help with the upkeep..outside AND INSIDE!!!

So...besides my continuing strike the weekend was good. Hubz put together a little party for me on Friday all the fam was there along with some friends and my newest nephew (not by blood but his parents are like family)Mason. He's perfect! Hubz spent way too much money on presents for me, but I loved them all. See I really do love the man and the way he takes care of me I just wish he'd pull his weight around the house, we are suppose to be a team.

Saturday I spent the morning scrapbooking with my Mason's mom, my favortist SIL and another friend M. Then it was off to a group meeting that was suprising productive and yummy. The group member that had us over fed us, it was great! I met my mom at my aunt's for a bit and b/c auntie had a birthday present for me. It was a beautiful hand painted basket. Now I just have to find somewhere to put it.

Sunday was busy with Church, soccer and then helping hubz at a side job for a couple of hours. When we finally got back home we got the basement unpacked and finally got all the electronics hooked-up. I only have to use one remote.

All in all not too bad of a weekend. The step-son's done with soccer so our weeks won't be so busy and our weekends are pretty free. At least they will be after the Church family retreat this weekend, wedding next weekend and Thanksgiving.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Strike...Day 4 and Birthday Preperations

So I have know been on strike for 4 days and I wonder if hubz and the step-son even notice. I haven't cooked or cleaned anything, except for those things I've used. Guess it will be continuing the strike. Oh in regard to that stuff sitting on the stairs that he ignored except for the razors...he has now picked up the magazine but the shampoo and stuff that needs to shredded and go in the office, STILL ON THE STAIRS!!!! SERIOUSLY!!! I'm not touching it...hell will freeze over. Then yesterday I was going to decorate for Halloween, yes I realize it's tomorrow but hubz was suppose to do some of it while I was gone, but I could decorate b/c he had both ladders and he didn't get home until 830. So now we're decorating and carving pumpkins today, the day before Halloween, and we also have to make sure that the step-son gets everything done for school tomorrow as well. So glad my life isn't completely dysfunctional b/c of the lack of help I receive, oh wait that's right he does help!

In more exciting birthday's tomorrow! Have I mentioned how much I love birthdays? Not just mine but everyones. So all the neices and nephews are coming over to trick-or-treat with the step-son, the husbands are taking the kids and the wives and my mom are staying to drink and have a good time. Then MIL is going to take the neices home later so BIL and SIL can stay and hang out. She drives me nuts most of the time but she has her moments. So I'll recap the birthday shennanigans on Monday, not that they'll be many seeing as tomorrow is the only thing that's really going on. I guess at least hubz did a good job for th anniversary I can't expect too much for the birthday.

Monday, October 27, 2008


So I survived my weekend alone to Williamsburg. I bowled okay. Saturday I bowled like crap, but on Sunday I go my average 2 out of 3 games and won $20. All in all not to bad. The Skins yet another game. GO SKINS!!!

However, as is part for the course I came home to the house the same way I left it..a mess. Now I understand hubz worked most of the day Saturday, but not all day so why did he not get step-son's laundry started until Sunday? Why couldn't he run a vacum or clean up the kitchn? So as of now I'm on STRIKE! I only washed my laundry and towels last nite. I won't be cooking dinner or cleaning up after anyone until the other two people I live with decide they want to help out! I left razors and shampoo that I bought when I went shopping Friday, along with some mail that needed to be shredded and a magazine of hubz's on the stairs the only thing he moved was the razors and that's only b/c he needed one. WHAT THE HELL!!!! The shampoo was going in the bathroom too, would it have killed him to pick it up!?

At least my birthday is in 4 days! I love birthdays. However after this there's nothing really to look forward to until Christmas and then that'll be sparce this year what with the economy and our lack of money! Oh well Christmas isn't about presents it's about family.

Thursday, October 23, 2008


So back in April I jumped on the Facebook bandwagon. I had been using MySpace but I liked the format and ease of Facebook alot more. Now I'm addicted to Facebook. Mostly b/c I have nothing to do at work, but also b/c it allows me to "talk" to some of my favorite people that I lost touch with after high school or that I just don't get to see or talk with everyday and some I do.

In other news I'm going to Williamsburg this weekend, w/out hubz, for a bowling tournament. Though I'm sad he can't come, the step-son has soccer and hubz has a big side job he needs to get done, I'm excited to get a weekend away. I'm staying at one of our timeshares and I can' wait to just relax with a good book, okay my Business Enterprises textbook but a book none the less, and just have peace and quite. No dogs, kid or husband. Should be nice.


My thoughts have been a jumble lately so this post in my attempt to get them out then maybe I can get them organized.

1. Why do I feel the need to have control of everything in my life and but not really be in control? My house is a mess, I have two dogs, a 9 y/o step-son and a husband that's like a child. Getting control of my life is just not an option if I have no support. I feel like I'm drowning and I just continue to get in further above my head.

2. Sometimes I wonder if I should see a shrink. I often wonder if I suffer from depression or something b/c while I'm no always sad I'm never truly happy. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I'm not where I thought I'd be at 8 days shy of 27. I was suppose to be finished with law school, working 50 hour weeks, married and enjoying being a newlywed. I guess it all goes back to #1 and my lack of control in my life.

3. I've been a member of my current church for as long as I've lived in VA, so 16 years almost, but recently I've been very unhappy with it. I'm thinking about changing churches and it scares me.

4. I want a baby like yesterday but b/c of my need to control things and the fact that we have so much debt this won't be happening for a least another year. I never thought I'd have kids and now....I sure could use that money tree.

5. I hate my job, not the people I work with (although I do have a strong dislike for one and am aggevated often by another). I wish I could be a professional wedding planner, but this just isn't realistic so I suffer through.

6. I wish that all the wonderful ladies I had in my life 5 years ago in college were closer, especially April, Cheronda, Linds, Sarah and Brooke. 5 very different ladies that I all helped me not only survive college but enjoy it. I talk to the first four every once in a while, but not nearly enough. Unfortunately Brooke and I have kind of lost touch. She's busy with her new life and I'm happy for her but I wish I could be a part of it just a little.

7. HOORAY!!! We finally have heat.

What a downer post! I'll try to come up with happy thoughts for later.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008


Remember when we were kids our parents would ask us if we thought money grew on trees? Now as a grown-up (don't tell anyone) I kind of wish it did. Before we bought our house we had all kinds of money, we couldn't run off to Vegas or anything but we were comfortable. Now we're BROKE all the time and it's stressing me out. We paid for our entire wedding ourselves, but most of it was on credit cards and so now that's what we're paying off. $22000 that was suppose to be close to paid off before we bought a house and then we realized we could no longer take living in a shit hole so we move the home buying up. No biggy except I HATE being broke. Now I'm in school, which I had planned to do without financial aid, and we have all these things that the house needs but I refuse to put anymore on credit cards...not that we could right now even if we wanted to. So as of Monday I've issued a freeze on all spending. Grocery lists will be cut back to minums and only stuff on sale or that I have coupons for will be bought. No more wine :( or beer :( or fun extras. No more movies or dinners out for the hubz and me. We've got to get this money thing under control. By February one credit card, $1300, will be paid off HOORAY!!! But that's not good enough. I want a baby but know it's not responisble to bring a baby with so much debt so I need that credit card debt cut in half before we can start TTC. Wish me luck!!!

Monday, October 20, 2008

Weekend Review

The weekend started off not to bad. Saturday the step-son had soccer and then we headed to the pumpkin patch where hubz got us 105 lbs worth of pumpkins for $27. NICE!!! Afterwards he headed off to a poker game leaving me home alone with nothing to do, so I watched Lifetime. Sunday was Church where we found out that there's a retreat we have to go to that step-son has had info about for a month but never informed us of. For 9 he's super irresponsible and hubz doesn't help the situation by doing things for him. I cleaned some of the the house, argued with hubz about his lack of assistance around the house....though he "helps" he just can't say one of two chapters for school and headed to the Elks Lodge to meet the moms for the Skins game. This was my weekend highlight...WE WON!!! So though my anniversary game was tarnished by a lost to the Rams, who by the way whipped up on the Cowboys, we're back on the winning track-at least I hope.

Hubz and I started talking about babies at the pumpkin patch and I think I'm going to stop trying to control the situation and just let what happens happen. Sure I don't want to be pregnant for my SIL wedding in September 2009 and I don't want to be super pregnant for my sister's wedding in May 2010, but in order to keep this from happening I have to plan my baby making around others schedules. So in February when I meet with my GYN/Midwife I'll just talk to her and see what I need to do to start getting ready and we'll take it from there. Hubz and I have agreed we don't want anymore kids after we're 35 so that leaves us about 8 years so we'll see what happens.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Anniversary weekend

So hubz and I celebrated our Anniversary this past weekend and it was GREAT!!! I was off on Friday and spent the day go to the eye dr and doing grocery shopping. Hubz got off early and we just hung out for a while, and tried to find strong men to help us get our free hot tub...more on this later. We went to dinner at outback and then went to see Eagle Eye in IMAX. I don't really get the whole hubbub about IMAX, but hubz was excited so....Saturday we didn't sleep in (grrrr...not happy about that) but instead got up to go get our hot tub which we wound up not getting because we still didn't have enough muscle instead we just went to check it's NICE. After we got home we just lounged around while hubz planned a super secret nite out. At about 530ish he informed me I needed to change into something HOT and I had to be ready by 7. After three changes I was ready and we were off to buy me new shoes, my incentive for getting ready early, but I didn't find anything :( So we head out to finally arrive at....THE MELTING POT!!!!!! Now I know some people don't like that you have to cook your own food here but I LOVE this place. We had a nice relaxing dinner, and we got our picture taken and a little gift from the Melting Pot. We left and went to PJ Skiddo's because we're so old and didn't want to go into the District to FUR. We were home by about 1am. It was great. Sunday we went to the Redskins game and sat ON the field, we were so close we could have touched the players...if we'd actually scored more than one touchdown in each in-zone. Sitting right behind us was...the parents of Clinton Portis...OMG!!!!! We'll never have seats like this again...I relished every minute.

So that was our weekend. It was great. When we finally got home my bestest friend, her husband and daughter came over for dinner and the step-son was dropped off at home and it was back to real life. I cherish the weekends hubz and I get to ourselves b/c we don't get them very often. So I'll hold this one close for a while b/c it's certain to be a while until we get another.

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Crazy Fever...

That's baby fever. Hubz and I plan to have kids and definatly sooner rather than later. However, I also have plans to get my Master's which I'm working on. While I know plenty of people go to school and have babies I just don't think I want the me selfish but I think it's responsible. I could never give a newborn or school the full attention either would deserve. So we're waiting but only another year because while I couldn't give school and a baby my full attention I could still be pregnant and going to school.

So for now I fawn over all the cute baby pictures on the nest. Not to mention those of my newest adopted nephew, Mason and my niece Elizabeth. Soon to be added to my baby madness is my newest niece or nephew from my baby sister. With all these babies hopfully my fever will subside until next fall. Here's hoping....

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

First Day of School

Two posts in five minutes...I'm on fire!

You know how when you were younger you used to anticipate the first day of school? YOu'd be full of nerves and excitment. That's how I was last nite. It was my first Master's class and I was a little unsure of what to expect. I had stopped for coffee on the way and wound up being about 10 mintues early which really turned into about 20 minutes early because the professor was late. After talking with a guy in class I learned that she's always late so I'll be planning for that the rest of the quarter. The class started off not to bad. We paired up to learn about someone in the class and then everyone introduced thier partners. My partner was a girl name Aida from Ethopia. She'd just moved here two weeks ago from Minnesota. She's cool we'll get along so at least I have one "friend". After all that the professor gave us a break, intros took about an hour, when we came back she jumped into explaining about herself and the class. The last hour was spent talking about SWOT/TOWS Analysis. This course is kind of a review of everything I learned in undergrad, since I was a business major, but it shouldn't be too bad. The only thing I don't like is we have to work in groups..ALOT and we have a presentation that's going to require me to buy a skirt or dress and hose because apparently women don't wear pants suits to job interviews? WHAT? So we shall see....more to come on this.


I'm a little behind because I meant to post yesterday about my fantastic husband and our anniversary. Though it wasn't how I would have liked to spend our anniversary, we were bowling, it still was memorable. I got home from work and hubz was still at work, or so I thought, at about 515 I called him to see if he was going to make it home before bowling or if the step-son and I would just have to meet him there. He said he'd have to meet us there and of course I was not happy I mean it was our anniversary and rather than getting a few minutes at home we'd be spending the whole nite at a bowling alley..FUN!!! So I hopped in the truck, stopped and Chik-Fil-A for dinner and just as I was to the lanes called to ask if he wanted Taco Bell...such a romantic dinner, good thing I'd cooked the fantastic beef wellington the night before. I got to the lanes and he was in the parking lot waiting for me. We walked into the lanes and there's a GIANT bouquet of ballons along with a beautiful arrangement of flowers...I was SOOOO suprised, he's not as romantic as I wish but he definately has his moments. Once we got all settled he handed me my cards (yes two we always do a funny and a serious) then handed me a piece of paper with a recipe for Broccoli Cheese Sauce...I thought nice a piece of paper, but then I turned it over and what did I see...a picture of TWO REDSKINS TICKETS!!!! We're going to the game this Sunday against the Rams and sitting in the SECOND ROW!!! He's so good to me.

Monday, October 6, 2008

1 year

One year today I married the love of my life. While it hasn't been the easiest year it's definately been memorable. In the last year we: got married, bought a puppy, hosted Christmas dinner, had our basement flooded numerous times, battled homebuying in a foreclouser market, bought a house and finally house broke aformentioned puppy. We also celebrated in the engagements of two of our sisters as well as two of my favorite UT girls and celebrated the arrival of our newest niece and newest adopted nephew.

In our first year of marriage I've truly come to belive that what does not kill us makes us stronger and that God has a plan for us. 5 years ago I would have never seen my self married, with a step-son, two dogs and house. But here I stand. Stronger, wiser and loved unconditionally. I know I'm not the easiest of people to love or even get a long with but some how God found this perfect man who compliments me and makes me stronger. I realize it's only one year, but I know that know matter what I can count on hubz to be by my side cheering me on no matter what and I'll be doing the same for him.

So where will be this time next year??? Maybe pregnant and definately celebrating life to the fullest.

For just in case he should decide to read this...not that he ever does:
I love you husband!!! Happy Anniversary!

Friday, October 3, 2008

HOORAY for Friday!!!!

I'm so glad it's Friday. It's been a crazy week and work and a lazy week at home. I've got these big plans to have big things done by Christmas, but have done nothing to even get any of them started. SLACKER!!! So although tomorrow will be mostly abused by soccer for the step-son I'm getting stuff done..damn it! Except first I must travel to Springfield with my favorite sister-in-law to make hair appointments for wedding next year. She may not have an acutal place to get married, but at least everyone will be able to get their hair done...I think it's funny. Anyways....Sunday is FOOTBALL and dinner for mine and hubz' first anniversary. The anniversary's actually Monday, but we're bowling so we'll do dinner Sunday and presents on Monday. WOOHOO...just how every girl wants to spend her first wedding anniversary. Eh..whatever I'm sure it's just precurser for what every other one will be like.

In other news...I still hate my job, but I'm starting to remedy that fact since I'll be starting my Master's Program on Tuesday!!! I'm started looking at the calendar and if things work out I'll be graduating in May 2010, just before my 10 year high school reunion..NICE!! Big things will be happening in 2010 my middle sister is getting married that May and we may have a baby! It seems so far away but it'll be here before I know it...I mean it's already October I don't know where the year went.

Well until later....

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Skins Win, 1st Mortgage

So HOORAY the Skins beat the Cowboys on Sunday. This is the 5th time in seven meetings. I work with alot of Cowboys fans so when we beat the "Boys" the Monday following is always GREAT!!!

We made our first mortgage payment this past weekend. It was sad to write such a large check, but it's for OUR house so it's totally worth it.

My 1st wedding anniversary is next Monday, which means this weekend should be our anniversary weekend. However, apparenlty hubz thinks that means our anniversary weekend is next weekend...what? It's whatever though. I knew when I married him that romance wasn't his strong suit. If I want any romance in this marriage it's all going to rest on my shoulders. So since he's made plans to work, go on bike rides and other stuff...I'll be spending the weekend drinking the wine I got at the wine festival I went to with my most favorite sister-in-law.

After a hectic couple of days things are starting to slow back down at work so I have plans to update this blog more often and maybe edit my 101 things in 1001 days.

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Random Thoughts

This post is just random things I've been thinking:

1. In a little more than a week and half I'll be celebrating my anniversary. However, I'm quite sure it'll just be like any other day seeing as the actual day is on Monday and we bowl. Also, hubz not really the most romantic guy ever, but I got him what I think's a kick ass present so...

2. I wish I could give all the banks and their CFO's a what for with this mess they've caused in the economy. IDIOTS!!!

3. I start my Master's program in two weeks and while I'm excited and I'm also super nervous. It's been almost five years since I was in school and I don't want to do bad.

4. I sometimes wish that we'd eloped because then we wouldn't have so much credit card debt, but then I look at pictures from our wedding and I wouldn't have passed up that day for anything.

5. We've been talking a lot about the timing of starting a family and while I'm excited. I can't help but think that when I finally get pregnant and have a kid nobody's going to be excited except for me. Hubz already has a kid so the excitement of a first child for him is gone and my sister's both had kids when they where teens (one's about to have another) so the excitement of the first grandchild is gone.

While there's other random thoughts on my mind there not something I'd feel comfortable putting in a public forum b/c I'm not sure if family reads this or not. So those thoughts will forever remain in my head.

Monday, September 22, 2008

Welcome FALL!!!

I love fall! It's not too cool or too hot. The leaves change colors, it means Thanksgiving and Christmas are on there way and most of means I get to celebrate another birthday. While the fact of getting older bums me out there's nothing I love more than celebrating my birthday.'s Halloween how could I not love it. And while it's not as fun as it used to be, since I now have a step-son and my day kind of gets overshadowed by his trick-or-treating, I still take the day for myself. This year won't be any different, except hopefully I won't have a stupid cold, I'm taking the day for myself. I have big plans to sleep in, hopefully have lunch with my best friend and her daughter and just relax, at least until the step-son and hubz get home then it's time to get ready for the little trick-or-treaters.

So bring on the crisp fall air! Happy fall!

Friday, September 19, 2008

Fall Work Clothes (and shoes)

So I recently realized that my work clothes are seriously lacking in anything good for fall. Plus, my work pants are just sad. So I took advantage of VS 25% sale on pants and bought these pants in the chocolate and navy. And I also bought this blazer from old navy again for 25% off. I love a good bargain I spent$94 and save $84. Nice now I can surely afford my cute purple shoes from Wal-mart. Say what you will about Wal-mart, but everyone once in a while they have some cute stuff.

September Birthdays

MY WORD!!! What is with these September birthdays?! Until hubz and I got together the only September birthday I had to remember was my Aunt's now with this new family that I'm not part of the birthdays start on the 7th and don't stop until the 29th! Seriously?! Last week I spent $30 on birthday cards. While I appreciate the points I'm racking up with my dear friend Diana is due any day now, Wednesday at the latest, with the newest September birthday addition. People I implore you...please stop getting it on in January!!!!

Now besides by best friend's beautiful daughter celebrating her 1st birthday today there's also another big birthday. My step-son turns 9 on Saturday. I can't believe it. I remember when he started kindergarten! Now he's in 4th grade and in his last year of the sinlge digits. He drives me nuts most days but it's so much fun watching him grow up. I can't wait for hubz and I to have one so I can be a part of all the big moments of his/her life.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Roe v. Wade (this is long)

This is the day Bush leaves office and the newly elected President takes over. When I started this blog it was so I could share my thoughts about this crazy thing called life. However, today I'm going to do something I don't normally do, talk about politics.

I didn't grow up in a house where we talked about politics. I'm not really sure why but I do know that my parents raised my sisters and I to stand up for ourselves and what we believe. The first time I ever had to test this rule, when it came to politics, was my freshman year of college. It was the first year I could vote, but I didn't because I missed the absentee deadline for Virginia. This kid told me I deserved to be murderd becasue I was pro-choice.

Most people in my life know that I'm Catholic. So to say I'm pro-choice goes against the foundation of my relgion. However, though I belive that Jesus died for us, I also belive that it is a woman's right to choose what she does for to and for her body.

I understand that there are women that choose to use abortion as a method of birth control, but I believe with all my heart that most women that choose to have an abortion do so after much thought, prayer and with much anguish. Therefore I don't believe that Bush, McCain or any Republican or Democrat has a right to take that choice away from anyone!

So why this post you ask because of this article:

I leave you with this. Why is it our government feels that it's okay to tell women what they can do with THIER bodies? We don't elect our officials to judge us. Only to do what's right for our country as a whole, not for a certain percentage our country.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

101 in 1001 days...take 1

Without further ado I give you my 101 things in 1001 days. I reserve the right to tweak this and I'll update as things are completed, in progress or failed. Everything should be completed by 28 June 2011. Wish me luck!

In progress

MONEY (Saving & Spending)
1. Pay off credit cards (0/3)
2. Budget $20 per check for fun stuff
3. Get a sewing machine
4. Get a DSLR camera
5. Buy bedroom furniture
6. Pay 2007 tax amendment
7. Save $5000 in ING
8. Save $500 in personal account
9. Buy external hard drive
10. $1/day for every day of challenge (0/1001) – putting $14 in ING every two weeks

11. Send my UT girls care packages quarterly (Jan, Apr, Sep & Dec) starting in Jan 09
12. Host a dinner party
13. Plan a girls weekend

14. Have sister dinners once a month
15. Reinstate game nite & rotate monthly
16. Girls weekend with Melissa, Amy & Elena
17. Have father/daughters dinner at least once every two months
18. Do something special for Aidan’s 10th birthday
19. Family portraits for & with all parents
20. Get Aidan to Weblo status by Dec 2008
21. Do family tree
22. Make a will
23. See an IMAX movie

24. Take another cruise
25. Weekend trip to NYC
25. Go to a local Renaissance Festival
26. Visit Medieval Times in Maryland
27. Visit a winery
28. Be a tourist in Williamsburg
29. Trip to Vegas
30. See a show at the Kennedy Center
31. Go to a concert at Wolf Trap
32. Try 5 new restaurants
33. See a ballet

35. Plant hostas before Halloween 2008
36. Paint the LR/DR by x-mas 2008
37. Paint Aidan’s room by Thanksgiving 2008
38. Get/make curtains for house
39. Replace shutters
40. Get seal on upright freezer replaced
41. Remodel powder room
42. Paint laundry closet and organize laundry stuff
43. Get flowers once a month for a year for the house (0/12)


44. Go through college and HS memorabilia
45. Make college t-shirt quilt
46. Make honeymoon photo book
47. Finish all X-mas shopping by first weekend in Dec every year (0/3)
48. Organize recipes
49. Clean and organize file cabinet
50. Frame all loose pictures (i.e. cruise, school, honeymoon, etc)
51. Finish UT Scrapbook in 2008
52. Acknowledge all birthdays in 2009 (0/50)
53. Pick a honeymoon picture for Meme to paint
54. Update family addresses yearly (0/3)
55. Organize photos
56. Make book/scrapbook of all wedding and birthday cards

57. Finish a 5K – Couch to 5k
58. Do Avon Walk with a big group
59. Volunteer/Crew for Avon Walk
60. Walk dogs at least once a week for a month (0/8)
61. Buy a scale
62. Reach 130 lbs and maintain
63. Take daily vitamins every day for a month (0/30)

64. Save for Coach diaper Bag
65. Reinstate AKA membership
66. Floss every day for a month (0/30)
67. Take a weekend alone
68. Take a photography class
69. Get Ladybug tattoo
70. Go through books for PBS
72. Graduate with MBA in Finance by 2010 with a 3.5
73. Start crocheting again
74. Finish cross stitches (0/4)
75. Read Five Love Languages
76. Read one new book a month
77. Vote in 08 election
78. Write a short story
79. Buy all Julia Roberts movies

80. Plan one nite out a month for me & Curtis (0/31)
81. Make a romantic dinner for Curtis
82. Start TTC
83. Take a weekend with Curtis to a B&B
84. Get a couples massage
85. Scavenger hunt
86. Boudoir photos
87. Go on a picnic

88. Go golfing with Curtis
89. Watch all three Lord of the Rings movies with Curtis (1/3)
90. Start a retirement plan for Curtis
91. Begin working with Curtis on his business plan
92. Take Curtis to his first NFL game
93. Buy Curtis Sox/Yankees tickets

94. Make Curtis a homemade cherry pie
95. Cook beef wellington
96. Pre-cook meals for twice per week for a month (0/8)
97. Shop at Farmer’s Market
98. Start a vegetable garden
99. Start herb garden
100. One new recipe a week for two months (0/8)
101. One vegetarian meal a week for two months (0/8)

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Slow and Steady

So I haven't written since I decided to do the 101 things in 1001 days, but we're making slow and steady progress on the house. My pantry shelves are in so my kitchen is just about unpacked. Of course there's no place to put all the lids to my rubbermaid containers but they can live in a box for now, at least until I come up with something. The master bedroom has 2.25 boxes left (the .25 is a box that has a bunch of random crap left in the bottom of it) to unpack and hubz is going to put bars in the closet so we can hang our clothes. He's building a closet system eventually, but we need something temporarily. The pool is apparently chlorine locked b/c the algea that was in the pool was there so long and has become resistent to chlorine. So hubz and his brother, that works at a pool store, have to figure out the right balance of chemicals to unlock it so that should take up more of his time from actually helping with the inside of the house. I don't know why I thought he'd actually be helping unpack when he didn't really help pack.

In other news my list of 101 things is just about done, look for it by Friday. The countdown to my birthday will soon begin, only a couple days shy of 45 days and my one year anniversary is less than a month away. How have I already been married a month? Speaking of marriage one of my very best friends from college got engaged this weekend, I think we haven't talked yet I just saw a picture of the ring. I'm so happy for her! She's in for the ride of her life as she plans a wedding and becomes a wife. I wouldn't have traded that time for anything. Off to lunch.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

101 things in 1001 days

So I found this list on a couple blogs that I happened upon. I use to set goals for myself but after college when I didn't get into law school, which may have been a blessing in disguise, I quit because it seemed that the goals I was setting weren't working out. However, I want to start holding myself more accountable and try and stop letting life just happen to me so...

The Mission: Complete 101 preset tasks in a period of 1001 days.

The Criteria: Tasks must be specific (ie. no ambiguity in the wording) with a result that is either measurable or clearly defined. Tasks must also be realistic and stretching (ie. represent some amount of work on my part).

Why 1001 Days? Many people have created lists in the past — frequently simple goals such as new year’s resolutions. The key to beating procrastination is to set a deadline that is realistic. 1001 Days (about 2.75 years) is a better period of time than a year, because it allows you several seasons to complete the tasks, which is better for organizing and timing some tasks such as overseas trips or outdoor activities.

I'm working on my list now and will put it up as soon as I'm done. 2.75 years seems like plenty of time, but we shall see.

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Back to the Grind

So I'm back from vacation and back to work. Coming back is always so depressing! Especially when you come back to a house full of boxes and a birthday party two weeks away. The step-son started school today, followed by soccer practice at this is going to be a long fall. I start school in a month and suprisingly am no longer nervous, but looking forward to it. Vacation was somewhat relaxing and the puppy had a fantastic time at the kennel. Guess I was worried for nothing.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Orlando here I come

So I'm off to sunny Orlando, FL for the next seven days. I'm so glad, I really..really need this break. I'm packed, except for the step-son who decided he'd pack himself and pack all his dirty laundry. NICE!!! Ijust spent the past five hours at my mom's doing laundry to come home and find out that I'm not done and will have to do more laundry when I arrive in Florida. I have half a mind to let him wear dirty clothes for a week, but alas I'm not that much of a bitch.

So don't miss me too much, not than anyone reads this, I'll be back before I know it and then my mundane life will begin once again.

Friday, August 22, 2008

T-minus 35 hours

In about 35 hours I'll be on my way to sunny Orlando. With only 1-hour left of work I can't wait. This vacation is long over due. With the step-son being home all summer hubz and I didn't get our normal break that I'm use to so I'm a little run down. I realize I'll probably need a vacation from my vacation with both the sisters and their significant others plus my nephews coming but at least it's a week long break from work and for the most part life. If only my house would unpack itself while I'm gone. Some how I doubt it though.

Thursday, August 21, 2008


About an hour after my last blog Gozie was back home. Hubz found him over in a completly different neighborhood. We think he just took the woods. I was so happy. He will no longer be allowed outside without adult supervsion. At least until we put up chicken wire or get him a run for the backyard.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Sweet Gozie

As I type this my sweet baby Gozer has run away and we can't find him anywhere. Of course we're in this brand new neighborhood so I know we're not getting him back. I'm so upset now that's all I can write. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers that we find him or he comes home.

First To Do Accomplished...ALMOST

So I painted the pantry (I just typed nursery and had to delete that) last nite and hubz and his best friend are hanging my shelves tonite. HOORAY!!! One thing down, one million more things to do. Tonite I think I'll start working on our bedroom. Thursday the step-son has his first soccer practice so any unpacking will have to be put off until we're done with that, but I think I'll probably just be finishing up our room.

Friday I have to get the truck inspected/emessions tested so we can renew our tags before vacay since expire before we get back. Lord knows the last thing we need is another ticket. I think after I'm done with the truck I'll head to Lowe's for painter's tape so I can start get the step-son's room ready for painting. Hubz thinks step-son should have the biggest room, even bigger than ours, for himself. However, that's not what we agreed so that's not how it's going to be. We agreed he'd have the medium size room, just because he's overindulged and has way too much crap does not mean that our agreement changes. If that makes me a horrible person so be it, but I don't think he should get the room we agreed would be for two kids all to himself just so that hubz does have to give up the extra room in the basement.

Only two more days until vacation!!!

Tuesday, August 19, 2008


We're in! We moved Saturday morning. We still have our big tv and the extra fridge left over at the neighbor's and bil's houses but other than that all our stuff is into the house. The house is full of boxes and I'm completely overwhelmed and exhausted, but I'm so glad to be in OUR house! I finished unpacking the dining room yesterday and mowed the lawn...I know quite the over achiever am I. The FIOS guy came and got our tv, internet and phone up and running so all we're missing now is hot water. The gas man came and turned on the gas, but apparently something on the water heater isn't working, but that's small potatos. My mom's letting us use her shower and hopefully we can have hot water before we leave for vacay on Saturday.

Hubz is going to be gone Thursday nite to NY for work so it's me and the step-son plus the dogs all by ourselves. I'm house sitting my SIL's pit puppy...she's stupid but cute. Gozer loves to have someone to play with so I can't complain. Mom has Nakita b/c she got spayed last week and we didn't think all the excitement plus the two puppies would be good for her. So she'll come home Saturday before we leave for some quality time. We have to put baby Gozer in a kennel and I'm not happy about it but there's no other choice, our regular dog sitter (my mom) is going on vacay the same time as us.

Well now that you're all caught up I'll be sure to update with house goings on for the rest of the week then it's off to Orlando. I can't wait...I totally need a vacation.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

It Ours!!!

Well, we finally closed on our house. By 1030 yesterday morning we were finally and officially homeowners. Hubz says it was anti-climatic, guess he wanted streamers and balloons to fall from the ceiling, but I didn't care I was just excited to finally have our houses. The payments wound up being about $40 more than we expected, but we'll refinance in a few years (hopefully) and then that won't even matter. We're cleaning carpets this week and then we move our stuff in on Saturday...I can't wait. Pictures and what not to come...

Friday, August 8, 2008


Monday can't be here soon enough. This time Monday I'll FINALLY be a homeowner. I swear I didn't think this day would ever get here. So with this impending sign of adulthood looming close there are still things to be done. I have to go to the bank tonite and get a bank check for $1772.32..HOLY HELL that's a lot of money. Tonite we're also taking the boys, my lil bro and the step-son, to the county fair. We missed it last year, but we're trying to make it a yearly thing. I really just go for cotton candy, real lemondae and funnel cake..mmmmm funnel cake. Saturday is a little baby shower for my friend Diana. Me and the sister-in-laws missed her original shower due to family obligations, so we're having a special shower for her just the five of us, Mo's coming too. Sunday looks like I can relax...a little suprise brunch for on of the mom's gf's but other than that I see a day of relaxing...I hope. Then it'll be Monday and I'll be signing away my first born!!!! We're not acutally moving our stuff into the house until next Saturday, but so what the house will finally be ours!!! Only we go on vacation the following week so we get to enjoy our house and being back with the dogs for a short period before we go away for a week, then it's back into the swing of things with the start of school, for the step-son I start in October, soccer, cub scouts, bowling and RCIC. Few it's going to be a busy year..but it'll be over before I know it and then Melissa will be getting married and hubz and I will be jump on the baby making band wagon.

Thursday, August 7, 2008


The stupid bank finally signed our deed on Tuesday. We're closing on Monday. Only 2 1/2 weeks late! BASTARDS!!! At least everything, except for the gas, is already on. I'd already scheduled for the Verizon to come and activate our FIOS on the 18th so it'll be movies for a little bit but not to long. Besides I'll be to busy unbacking and tearing apart the half bath to worry about TV. I tell you what I'm excited that'll I'll be able to get my GH and Army Wives back. The only stressful part is that we move next weekend and then we're in the house for one week exactly before we leave for vacation. When we get back it's school, soccer, cub scouts and RCIC for Aidan. Bowling for me and the hubz and in October I start school.

Did I mention I'd registered to start my Master's? I'm nervous and excited all at the same time. I think we can still work it so we can statr TTC next fall. If we get pregnant right away I'll just be super pregnant when I recieve my diploma, but it'll be so worth it. It means when my 10 year HS Reunion comes around I'll not only have an MBA but I'll also have baby. Of course seeing as things haven't gone as planned since I left undergrad we'll just have to wait and see.

Monday, August 4, 2008

Day 4...

We've been homeless for four days now and it doesn't look like it's going to end anytime soon. We rushed to get all our paperwork together for our financing and what not and now we're just standing still. It's frustrating and completely unacceptable. What gives banks and settlement companies a right to treat people this way. I wanna know what the hell the hold up is. And the excuse that this paper we're waiting for is computer generated doesn't wash with me. Computer generated or not everything starts with a human. So find out what dip shit screwed things up and get me in my house!

While I appreciate that my BIL & SIL have given us a place to live I want and need my own space. I survived two years in college sharing my space and it was HORRIBLE. I need to be able decompress with my stories, which I've now missed two weeks of, and a nice snack before starting dinner. I need my dogs to be driving me nuts. GRRRRRR...I'm losing my patience very quickly now b/c we're going on a week and half. WTF!

Wednesday, July 30, 2008


So this whole house thing has me in a funk. I hate being this way. I can't really be happy about anything, not that there's anything to be happy about. I don't want to eat, a sure sign somethings wrong what with my love for food and all. I wish we could just be done.

So It Begins....

Our big move..across the street. Yup that's right we started moving all our worldly possessions into the ILs garage last nite. We'll be lucky to even get a quarter of our crap in there but at least it's something. I'm so excited, please note the sarcasm there. I can't believe we're going to be homeless in one day and there's absolutely nothing we can do about it! Hubz is calling our loan officer today to see what our rate will be next when our current rate expires. Here's hoping it's lower, but since our life is like an example of Murphy's Law, I'm betting it'll be higher. This means all the money we have saved, okay not all, but some of the money we have saved will have to go towards buying down our rate to at least what it's currently at. GREAT!!! Things just keep getting better.

I had my first break down yesterday, at work no less. I thought I was doing good, but as it's known to do, everything just snuck up on me. I just don't understand. We did everything we were suppose to do and now we're being screwed and all we can do is say thank you! I'm sure it's just the first breakdown of many to come.

I also registerd for my GRE yesterday, which is sure to cause a breakdow all it's own, and started my application for Strayer. I can't believe I'm still thinking about going to school with all the stress I'm going through right now. Well, I do have to keep my eye on the prize.

At least this weekend I get to focus on something happy and not my situation. My oldest nephew had a birthday the middle of July and we're finally going to celebrate it at a roller skating rink. Should be fun. The step-son loves to roller skate and I've been know to bust a few moves on roller skates in my day. I can't wait!

Tuesday, July 29, 2008


So it's looking more and more like we're really going to be homeless. Now add to that that we have a place to stay, but our dogs don't. Nice right.? What really pisses me off about this whole situation is that if no closing had been our fault we'd have had to pay the bank $100/day that we didn't close. However, since it's their fault not only are we assed out of a place to live and paying for utilities on TWO houses, at least until Friday, but we get NO concessions from them. They won't pay for our termite remediation , they won't let us move our stuff into the house NOTHING. WTF!!!!!! When you think about it the banks are the ones that got the economy into the mess we're in now to begin with and they have yet to have to do anything about that and it looks like they will continue to be allowed to screw your every day joe. We're going to start moving our things into the ILs garage tonite. And in the mean time I have to figure out what to do with our dogs.

Monday, July 28, 2008

Almost Homeless

So with only three days left in the month and no rent paid for August we're almost homeless. We're hoping for positive news today, but I'm not holding my breath. Our house is almost completly packed and tonite I'm going to start moving things so we can get carpets cleaned in the master bedroom. Tomorrow will be the kitchen and Wednesday I'll tackle all the bathrooms, except for hubz because his is gross. On Wednesday we'll start moving stuff across the street to my BIL & SIL basement, unless we're moved/moving in to our house. Keep us in your prayers that we're in our own house before Friday. I don't want to share a house, I want my own house DAMN IT!!!

It a little more positive news I've decided to sit for my GRE the day we leave for vacay. I figure I'll take it and then either celebrate or commiserate while on vacation. Wish me luck!

Friday, July 25, 2008


So SURPRISE!!! We're not closing today. We now have no cable and all our movies are packed. Add to this I found out last nite that our rate expires on 5 August and nobody can say when we'll be able to close. Which means come next Friday..we'll be HOMELESS!!!! Sure we have family to stay with but that won't be our home it'll be us taking up space in someone elses house! Oh and we have to find somewhere to put all our crap. When it rains it pours. I can't even find a silver lining in this crap. I'm PISSED! I mean WTF it's not like our closing date was a suprise for this other settlement company. Jackasses! Woosah!

Now I'm stuck here at work, when I should have been moving into my very own house today. Oh and on top of the stress of not closing and being stuck in the crap hole that is our current home...Curtis' mom is here. It's going to be a great weekend. Maybe I'll take a road trip.

But wait there's more. I stopped at Starbucks this morning for a soothing White Chocolate Mocha, it makes me happy, and when I walked out the shop I see my stupid car pouring something out of the bottom. Please keep in mind and don't know the first thing about cars, except for where the oil, windsheild wiper fluid and gas goes, but I was almost 100% sure I knew what this lovely fluid flowing from car was...COOLANT!!!! WTF!!! Can't I catch a break, I just got this hunk of junk back. Sure enough I get down on the ground to check it out and there's nice green tint, DAMN IT!!! Now my mother is bringing me more coolant so that I can get home. I think this may be a weekend full of lots of grown-up beverages. Does that make me an alcoholic?

Thursday, July 24, 2008

It Figures

I should have guessed that things were going to smoothly. Chances are we're not closing tomorrow. GREAT!!! My house is a maze of boxes. I have a pot, a skillet and a frying pan unpacked and no Gladware b/c it too is packed. Not to mention my cable gets disconnected tomorrow and I start paying for utilities at two houses tomorrow as well. GREAT!!! Ya know if we didn't have bad luck we wouldn't have any luck. Why can't things just go the way they're suppose to? Oh and if we don't move this weekend and get stuck moving during the week the only help we'll be guranteed is our siblings and in my case my sibling significant others. Should be fun right?

Let's keep our fingers crossed the stupid foreclosure company gets our title work today. Otherwise we're screwed. The only good thing about it is hubz will actually have pretend like he wants to hang out with me. He's done with softball too which means I'll have him all to myself....hmmmmm what shall we do?

Monday, July 21, 2008

Houston We Have Lift Off!

So...all systems are go for our Closing on Friday. I can't believe that in four days I'll be a homowner. What have I gotten myself into?

We've rented the U-haul. And just have to finish packing the entire upstairs, but hey come hell or high water we're moving on Saturday. Now we just have to get some help.

In other house news I've picked out the sink, vanity and faucet for the downstairs bathroom.
Vanity with faucet:

What do you think? I'm going to paint the walls a silvery/gray color and then have splashes of color for towels and stuff in the bathroom. Right now there's also a giant wall length mirror that I'm taking down and replacing with a smaller mirror for just over the vanity, but I haven't found anything I like yet. Plus, the sink, vanity and faucet are a little pricey so the mirror will have to wait.

Did I mention how excited I was?

Tuesday, July 15, 2008


This house buying process is a little exhausting. Besided the packing who knew there was so much entailed? Inspections, insurance quotes, more inspections, papers to sign, checks to write, more papers to sigh...whew! However, all our inspections have gone GREAT, I only had to call one other place to get an insurance quote that wasn't totally absurd and so far only two semi-large checks have been written. Of course we haven't gone to closing yet so that could all change. We're still waiting on our apprasail, hopefully the apprasail isn't crazy.

Now I just have to pack the rest of the house with no help from my wonderful husband, he's too busy at least that's what he keeps saying. Apparently I do nothing so I have all the time in the world to pack an entire 3 bedroom single-family home! But I'm not bitter.

I already have plans for the bathroom on the main level of the new's going to be my first project. I'm hoping we can have a birthday/housewarming in October, but we'll see.

Monday, July 7, 2008

Let the Games Begin

So we are officially under contract. The lender locked in our rate today...6.325%. It's high but the market's in the toilet so what can you do. The plan is to refi in a couple of years with my credit union so we'll deal for now. The inspection is scheduled for tomorrow and the termite guy will be out by the end of the week. I can't belive how fast things are happening. It took forever to find this house and now it'll be ours before we know it.

I guess for once good things really did come to those who wait. We knew our house was out there, but it just took a while for us to find it.

Well, fingers crossed everything goes well for the inspection. It's just for informational purposes, since the house is a foreclosure, but I would hate for there to be anything major wrong with it and we have to walk away. Listen to me being Ms. Pessimist, as I tell hubz all the time...I'm just being a realist.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008


It finally happened! We have a house. Well almost anyway. The bank accepted our offer on this house: Besides the blue carpet it's a good house. We've bought an oven b/c we need it for financing purposes and b/c well we need an oven. It's within our original price range and it has tons of potential. I can't believe it! The plan is to close at the end of the month. Thank goodness! Only one month left in this s#*^t whole.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008


Well after a fantastic trip to Florida. I'm back and not happy about it at all, but what can you do.

April was a beautiful bride and who knew Adam cleaned up so well? They were both glowing and I'm so happy that I was asked to be a part of their day. The ceremony was wonderful and the reception was a party, with many UT Alums in attendance. I drank waaaaaaaaaaayyy to much and paid for it the whole plane ride home. I'll upload pictures soon, that's assuming I can figure it out.

So now I'm back and still NO HOUSE!!! Everyone keeps saying that we'll find something and I know but WHEN?! I'm sick on this crap whole that oh by the way now has small mold problem in the basement bathroom/laundry room. And the AC still isn't working great and fat bastard hasn't sent anyone out to charge it like he said he would. BIG suprise, right?

In better news, I had my mid-year review yesterday and my boss had glowing words for me. She does want me to do more analysis then I currently do, although it's not normally necessary since most of what I do is no brainer, but okay. And she wants me to take on some supervisory stuff when we have people helping, not that that happens often. My mom says she maybe forming me to take over when she leaves but she's not retirement age for a while still and I don't plan on being here till then. We'll see what happens though. Seems life is nothing like I expected it to be at almost 27 so ya never know.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

28 hours & counting

In about 28 hours and 50 minutes I'll be out of this office and on my way to the airport to go to Tampa. It can't get here soon enough. Of course in that time I have to pack, for me and hubz and for the step-son to go to my mom's. I have to run errands and make sure that the animals are going to get taken care of. last nite hubz steam cleaned our upstairs carpet, the stupid puppy is STILL not house broken, and not even 10 minutes after he was done the puppy s#*t on the carpet. NICE! I tell you what, we have to break him of this habit before we get a new house. I'll be damned if he's going to be using the house as his personal bathroom!

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

My Bad

Ooppps....this was suppose to be my way to vent and I've been letting in lag. So it's a week since the last time I posted and not to much has changed. We still have no house and we're on hold for the house that was our pretty close to dream house. We've found another we're putting an offer in on today, but that's all I'm saying in hopes of not jinxing it.

On Thursday I leave for Tampa for April & Adam's wedding. I can't wait. April is one of my favorite people and I'm so excited to be a part of her big day. I truely believe she helped me survive my last year of college by keeping me sane. She and Adam are perferct for each other and I wish them all the happiness in the world.

Homelife for me is a little rocky this week. I'm very aggrevated with the lack of partnership I feel that hubz and I have in our relationship. I often feel like I'm the only one doing things and in order for me to get him to do anything I have to ask multiple times. My step-son is suppose to leave for Texas to see is bio-mom the Sunday after July 4th but as of yet the stupid woman can't be bother to call and tell us what's up. We haven't budgeted for summer camp this summer but I have this sneaking feeling we're going to be paying for it. I disagree often with hubz family on her involvoment with step-son b/c I think it's important for him to have a relationship with her and form his own opinions of her, but after this year I'm starting to rething that. She never calls, send letters or cards or has any interactions with him unless we call her. It's just ridiculous to me. He's 8. How do you explain to him his mom's worthless? Especially when he has a half-sister that she takes care of alone?

Monday, June 9, 2008

Ummm...Just Kidding

So I had reserved talking about this because I didn't want to jinx anything, but now it looks like it doesn't matter. We found a house. And now after 36 hours we've lost it. Apparently the bank has decided that even though we accepted their counter offer that would require us to pay our own down payment they've changed their mind and now want us to pay our 3% down payment along with 2% of closing costs amounting to a gran total of $15000 we'd need at closing. RIGHT!!!! Because I have that kind of money lying around?! If I didn I seriously doubt we'd be looking at forclosures that require us to deal with stupid banks that take forever to get back to you and then change the rules half-way through. So though this house was perfect, minus the putting green carpet, it looks like, as usual, it just wasn't meant to be. Now we're stuck in the crap whole that is our house until mid-July. Oh HOORAY!!! NOT!!! I'm so pissed off right now.

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

HOT Water

Well, FINALLY after almost a week we have hot water again. The stupid plumber spent almost five hours at the house on Satruday to finally tell me at about 630ish that we need a hot water heater. Ummmm...ya think! So he called the property management guy, as did hubz, and they say we'll have it Sunday. Wake-up sunday at 1030 and at around 12 call property managment fatty to find out when the plumber would be at the house..he can't come b/c he has family stuff. Here's an idea fat bastard find someone else...I WANT HOT WATER!!!!! He assures hubz we'll have hot water on Monday. Luckily I was home Monday afternoon, no AC at work (WHAT THE HELL!!!) and sure enough plumber dude showed up, flooded our unfinished area, replaced the hot water heater, and left a giant mess!!! We soooooo need our own house. If we'd owned this money pit at least we could have fixed the damn thing last week when it broke.

On a better not we looked at more houses on Sunday and found a couple we liked, but that's all I'm saying because I don't want to jinx it. So just pray or do whatever you do for good vibes for us. I so want out of this crap hole. I have started packing. Three boxes already done. I'm buying rubbermaid this weekend for some of my PartyLite stuff as well as my shoes and stuff. It's not like the rubbermaid won't get used, we have plenty of use for them.

I leave you with this. Summer's almost here!!!!!

Friday, May 30, 2008

Week in Reveiw

What a craptastic week! That's what I get for extending the NC vacay by a day. Work's been house is a mess...and we have NO HOT WATER!!!! Wednesday morning I took a lukewarm shower and by Wednesday evening the hot water was all gone. Now it'll take the fat bastard that is our property manager at least the next three days to get a plumber out, I'm speaking from experience. And he'll expect one of us to take the day off to meet whatever bozo he sends out. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! I want my own place. If this was our house we could've had the damn cheap, tiny water heater replaced yesterday.

Speaking of houses. We're going back out on Sunday to search some more. I did find this:
I think it's cute and may make us both happy and the price doesn't hurt either. It does have to Master Bedrooms which is a little weird but I'm sure we'd beabel to work it out. We might even beable to turn it into two bedrooms with a joint bathroom. We'll see. I just want a house. I'm so done with the craphole money pit!

In even happier news by best friend has returned safely from another trip to the sandbox. Now I have one less thing to worry about. We haven't talked yet, we keep missing each other, but just knowing he's back safe and home with his wife and dog is reassuring enough for me.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008


The other house we put in a contract appears to now be off the market, so I'm guessing we didn't get that one. So it's more house shopping for us. Hopefully third times a charm.


So we didn't get the house in Dumfries. Oh well..moving in on. We're still waiting to here about the second house we put a contract in on and we've put a contract in on another house it the same neighborhood as the second house. Hubz is holding out hope for the backyard house: check out both pages. It's an okay house but older than I'd like put it has everything we want except a two car garage.

In other news. We spent that past three days at the beach in NC. It was great and well needed. Now the next month will be super busy. The step-son has a cub scout camp out this weekend. I'll be splitting my time between that and a belated birthday celebration for my favorite sister-in-law. Next weekend is my big 5k, then it's off to Tampa for the wedding of one of my favorite ladies to a great guy. I can't wait. When we get back it full steam ahead with the preparing the step-son for his first overnite camp. He's going away for a whole week before we pack him up and send him to his mom's for the summer. I can't wait for July just so I can hopefully relaxed. Unless of course we're in a new house by then...oh wait there's those GREs I still need to take.

More to come....

Thursday, May 22, 2008


Hubz just called to tell me that the Realtor thought if we raised our offer on the first house by $4000 (equal to about a $20 difference in payments) we'd probably get the house. WHAT!? Okay so I thought this was suppose to take a little longer. I'm still set on not getting it, but OMG...I may have a house by the end of the week after only looking for a week.


Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Hurry Up!!!

So today we should hear about one of the houses we put in a contract on. It's the foreclosure and the one we like the most, but I'm not really expecting the outcome to be positive. Regardless I wish they would just hurry up and tell us one way or the other. I've checked my email at least tweleve times today. I tell you what all the waiting that's necessary for purchasing a house is for the birds. I HATE waiting. Just tell me one way or the other so if we need to keep looking we can. We're suppose to go out on Friday to look at more houses but Curtis may be working a side job and since we need the money I can't really complain. It sucks though because we were both going to off on Friday, which is rare, and I was looking forward to spending the day together. Eh..oh well it'll all be worth it once we have a house. Especially if it's the foreclosure.

Monday, May 19, 2008

House Hunting...take two

So after 6.5 hours of looking at houses yesterday we found two that we liked..ALOT. So we're putting in a contract on both. One's a little higher than we wanted to go in price, but totally worth it and the other's right at the top of what we wanted to spend and again totally worth it.

Check em out...what do you think?

First choice:

Second choice:

Friday, May 16, 2008

House Hunting

So tonite we officially start house hunting...AHHHHHHHHHHH!!! I tell you what I'm crazy overwhelmed and we haven't even started. I was trying to grow my nails, yeah they're gone I bit them all off. I know it's smart to be doing this now rather then sink more money it to someone elses house, but I think I maybe an alcoholic before this process even begins. Of course I will have Curtis, Stephane (our Realtor) and Melissa (the sister-in-law and whose company will be doing our closing) along for the ride it's still nerve racking. eyes are on the prize. MY VERY OWN HOUSE!!!

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Sean Taylor

I'm an avid Redskins fan. So it gives me great satisfaction that today one of the five suspects responsible for his murder pleaded guilty and will be sentenced to 29 years in jail.;_ylt=AmHeRAMvRxncZT7tVhm11Kib2bYF?slug=ap-redskins-taylorslain&prov=ap&type=lgns

One down, four to go.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

First Blog

So I figured since I don't keep up with MySpace or Face Book all that well I'd try my hand out at a Blog. I loved my blog on MySpace during my wedding so why not?....

Mother's Day

I celebrated my first Mother's Day as a step-mom. My mom and sisters all came over and I cooked dinner, since I don't consider myself a real mom, for them. It was a good time had by all, until we realized that our unfinished room in our basement was flooding along with the bathroom and the corner where my very expensive, handmade curio cabinet was sitting. NOT HAPPY! When hubz called the management guy he politely responded with...What do you want me to do? And so starts the house hunting.

That one little comment was enough to push hubz over the edge and so no we're moving up the house buying to this summer. We've been pre-approved and we're going on our first house hunting excursion this Friday! AHHHHHHHHHH!!!! I'm excited, anxious, overwhelmed and about a million other emotions. But in the end we'll be homeowners and then it's on to babies and grad school (which by the way is going to kick my butt since I can't even figure out the GRE!).

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